In fact, you treat yourself so poorly that if someone else were to do that to a baby or animal, you’d call the police to lock them up. And you’d be right to do so because it’s abuse.Īsk yourself, why is it so easy for you to be nice to everyone else but yourself? Don’t you believe you deserve some compassion? You treat animals gently without any hesitation.īut yourself… you hold to impossible standards, criticize without blinking an eye, work to the bone, not considering your well-being for a second. Writing helps us to purge our thoughts from our minds. When you see the words on paper or written out, it’s easier to detach, make sense of it (to see patterns or triggers), and move forward (remove or avoid triggers). Hint: Get rid of them. They’re not helping. When you’ve done this over some time, you’ll notice the people or situations that trigger your negative thoughts. You can then decide how to handle those triggers. When you’re in a better mood or not as pessimistic, read what you’ve written. As you review it, ask yourself the following questions:Ī) Is this message really true? How accurate are my thoughts?ī) Would I say this to another person? If not, why am I saying it to myself?Ĭ) What do I get out of having such a negative view?ĭ) Did I interpret the situation accurately? Is there another explanation for this situation?įor each negative belief, write one to three positive counterarguments. This exercise aims to help you detach from your inner critic and separate its voice from your true voice. Don’t wait until later, don’t justify it, just jot it down. Write the good, the bad, and the ugly. Don’t overthink it. Second, you’ll be able to write without restraint or fear of exposure.ĭivide your journal into two columns. Whenever a negative opinion crosses your mind, write it down in one of the columns immediately. Why does it have to be a secret journal? Well, for one, it might not be a good idea for someone to stumble upon how truly critical you are of yourself. It would be like exposing your deepest insecurities for the world to see. Remember, our thoughts are not reality. Our opinion about ourselves is probably not how others perceive us. What’s a thought journal, you ask? It’s a secret journal where you write all the negative views you have about yourself. Just because you think or feel something, doesn’t make it true. The first step in changing negative thoughts is accepting the fact that your thoughts are NOT reality. Were you raised around criticism, verbal abuse, or in an otherwise toxic environment?Īs human beings, we take words to heart. We are quick to internalize critical and negative words, rarely attempting to find out if the feedback is even true. Those words become our truth, used to beat ourselves into submission. Now, that may be a tough pill to swallow. Since you’ve known yourself for a long time, you’re pretty clear on where and how badly you suck. However, your opinions and feelings about yourself are heavily affected by the environment you grew up in and the way you were raised. This includes the thoughts we have about ourselves. You see, our thoughts are not reality. At times, they’re not even based on reality, but on our perception of reality. Haven’t you ever disliked someone, only to find out how cool they are after getting to know them? You were convinced they were a complete idiot, only to find out you horribly misjudged them and they are actually pretty great underneath. Once you got to know them, your perception changed. Many things affect our perception of reality. Our background, education, family, and experiences in life are among those things that color the way we see the world around us.Īnd what we assume about something or someone may actually be the furthest thing from the truth. Remind yourself that your thoughts are NOT reality. ![]() You may want to try speaking to one via for quality care at its most convenient. ![]() Speak to an accredited and experienced therapist to help you change the way you think and adopt a new, more positive mindset. So, let’s explore some ways to change our way of thinking once and for all. Having a negative voice in your head that just won’t shut is a horrible way to live. Is it even possible to shut up your inner critic? After all, that naysayer has been yammering on since your childhood. ![]() How can you change from being a perpetual pessimist to an optimist? How can you stop looking out for the bad in every situation or person? But how can you shut your brain off long enough to step out of your comfort zone to try some of the things you’ve always wanted to try? The things you’ve held back from because your negative way of thinking stopped you in your tracks?
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